Here's the thing people don't tell you when you're trying to grow up...
Nobody has a clue what they're doing.
We're all faking it til we make it. There's no cut and dry way to do this. That's why people make so many mistakes. But...the mistakes are part of what helps you grow up. How you handle the aftermath, how you choose to live your life afterwards, and how you hold yourself accountable.
Be humble. It's not always the other person's fault. (And you are no better than anyone else).
Be genuine. No sense in trying if you don't mean it.
Be wise. Don't make the same mistake twice.
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Aside from making mistakes, there's a lot more you learn as you get older.
For instance...you can't force someone to love you. Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you try, how great of a person you are, or what sacrifices you make. If they're not meant for you or not ready for you, it's not your fault. You have to learn when to keep fighting and when to let go. That's a lesson that'll never get easier or clearer.
You learn life doesn't go according to plan. There's so many twists and turns you don't know to expect. You have to learn to be ok with it. Go with the flow and have faith that everything will turn out ok.
You learn to become you're own best friend. You're the only person that knows all of your deepest darkest secrets, your first and last thought of the day, your crazy dreams you can't tell anyone else about, and what stupid goal you have in life that no one else would ever understand. You become your biggest cheerleader too. No one knows the struggles you face and you can't rely on someone else to push you like YOU can push you.
You learn to stop trying to keep up with what everyone else has. Just because it's right for them, doesn't mean it's right for you. Be happy with little everyday things. The sun finally came out after the rain? Then smile. You thought you were out of milk and you still have enough for what you needed? Then be thankful. Someone paid you a genuine compliment? Then be happy and confident.
Finally, you learn just because you're down..doesn't mean you'll stay down (and vice versa). You're going to have good times and bad times. If everyday were good, you wouldn't know it. Life comes to us in seasons and in every season, there is a lesson to be learned.
Be humble, Be genuine, Be wise-
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